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Stuntman to Success Coach: Mastering High-Performance with Brian Hite

• Jennifer Loehding • Season 7 • Episode 67

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In this episode of the Starter Girlz podcast, host Jennifer Loehding engages with Brian Hite, a high-stakes performance consultant with a unique background as a stuntman. They explore the intricacies of organizational psychology, the importance of resilience in high-pressure situations, and the holistic approach to human well-being. Brian shares his journey from the entertainment industry to consulting for elite military personnel, emphasizing the significance of mental, emotional, and physical health in achieving success. The conversation highlights the need for a deeper understanding of success beyond financial metrics, focusing on personal fulfillment and well-being. In this conversation, the speakers explore the importance of creating attainable wins in life and performance, emphasizing the need to focus on the process rather than just the end result. They discuss broader definitions of leadership and performance, highlighting that everyone can be a leader in their own right. The conversation also touches on Brian Hite's journey in the film industry, the thrill of performing stunts, and the value of traveling as a family to gain new perspectives. Ultimately, the discussion encourages listeners to embrace their unique paths and experiences.

Takeaways

  • High-stakes performance requires clarity and overcoming stress
  • Organizational psychology focuses on creating optimal work environments
  • A holistic approach to well-being encompasses physical, mental, and emotional health
  • Success should be defined in multiple dimensions, not just financially
  • Understanding the mind-body connection is essential for performance
  • Creating attainable wins is crucial for motivation
  • Focusing on the process leads to greater well-being
  • Success should be defined by controllable actions
  • Every interaction influences others, making us all leaders
  • Performance can be defined broadly, beyond traditional roles
  • Personal experiences can enhance professional coaching
  • Family experiences, like travel, enrich our lives

To learn more about Brian, visit https://brianhiteglobal.com/.

Jennifer Loehding:

Welcome to the Starter Girlz podcast, your ultimate source of inspiration and empowerment. We're here to help women succeed in every area of their lives career, money, relationships, and health and well-being while celebrating the remarkable journeys of individuals from all walks of life who've achieved amazing things. Whether you're looking to supercharge your career, build financial independence, nurture meaningful relationships or enhance your overall well-being, the Starter Girlz Podcast is here to guide you. Join us as we explore the journeys of those who dare to dream big and achieve greatness. I'm your host, jennifer Loehding, and welcome to this episode. Welcome to another episode of the Starter Girlz podcast. Wherever you are tuning in today, we are so glad to have you. I'm your host, jennifer Loehding, super excited about my guest today. So today I want to ask you what does it take to thrive under pressure and perform your best when it matters most? My guest today has spent decades helping individuals and organizations unlock clarity, overcome stress and achieve extraordinary results in high-stake environments, and so you guys are going to get to hear from him in just a few minutes. But before we do that, I do need to do a quick shout out to our sponsor.

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Jennifer Loehding:

All right, before I bring my guest on, I do want to make a mention to head on over to startergirlz. com. There you can pick up all the episodes that you missed, keep up with what's happening, sign up for our newsletter and just know what's all going on with Starter Girlz. And so I am excited about my guest today. This is so much fun. He has got, oh my gosh, so many things going on in his world, and I think it's so fun when we have entrepreneurs like this, because I just think we're all just kind of like this. We're doing a hundred different things, all the different times, all the times.

Jennifer Loehding:

So Brian Hite is the high stakes performance whisperer, blending over 30 years as a professional stuntman, with a deep understanding of performance dynamics in both individuals and teams. With a PhD in organizational psychology and a master's in sports psychology, brian has worked with elite military personnel, leaders, first responders and creatives to reframe their perceptions of stress and pressure. Through his groundbreaking programs, keynote talks and podcasts flow under fire. Brian empowers individuals to tap into their strengths and realize their full potential. So I'm excited to hear his insights today and what he's doing. And so, brian, I just want to welcome you to the Starter Girl Show.

Brian Hite:

Well, thank you very much for having me. I appreciate it.

Jennifer Loehding:

It's going to be fun, yeah. So I'm looking over your profile and I'm like, yeah, you have just done so many things and I love it because it's it's really, when you look at all of it, it, even though it's different, it all sort of overlaps a little bit. There's little pieces that have gone into each of this and I love that and I think that's what makes this journey as an entrepreneur so um fun. Is you know, like if you were to ask somebody, how did you get from here to here, They'll be like what I don't even know. But if you look at all the little stepping stones that get you there, you'll see how all the pieces connected. So I want to start off and talk about your work because, first of all, organizational psychology. I want to know what that is, because I am fascinated about psychology and I think, as humans, psychology is such a fascinating topic. So tell us a little bit about what organizational psychology is.

Brian Hite:

Yeah, that's an interesting question. That was funny. I remember when I was going through the doctoral program for organizational psychology, I was talking to a friend of mine she was another stunt person and she asked the same question like what is organizational psychology? It sounds like something I need because I don't organize anything. I'm the most disorganized person. Okay, well, that's not what it is, but what it is is. It's very, very similar to sport performance psychology, which is what I got my master's degree in. It just is applied to organizations. So it's around leadership and how do we create the climate and conditions for people to be able to be at their best? How do we motivate? How do we avoid burnout? How do we increase employee engagement and job satisfaction? How do we interact with people and, again, create that environment that allows people to thrive and flourish in the organizations? That's really what organizational psychology is.

Jennifer Loehding:

I like it. I like it. So I want you to kind of back us up, because you're military stuntman. You're military stuntman, you're doing this. You know organizational psychology, working with leaders, all of this. Can you walk us through this a little bit? Tell me this journey? You don't have to give me everything, but just kind of give me an overview how this all came about for you.

Brian Hite:

Well, it came about when I decided to take a drama class in high school. That's really what happened. My teacher ended up introducing me to somebody who was able to get me hired as a stage technician at opryland, back when opryland was a theme park and not a mall in nashville, which is where I'm originally from and where I live now. But uh, so I did that job and my stage manager that very first summer of that of that show ended up being the company manager of the batman stunt at the Six Flags in New Jersey where.

Brian Hite:

I happened to go to college at Rutgers and so that guy was able to get me tickets to the park. I saw the show and fell in love. I fell in love with stunts immediately, Right from the beginning of that show I was enthralled and because my friend was the company manager, I was able to go backstage and talk to the people and say, well, how do you get this job? And they said, well, you got to know how to do these things. So I learned how to do those things and I went to the audition and got the job. I did that the next summer. This was the summer after my junior year of college, Because in college I had no idea what I was going to do.

Brian Hite:

I knew that I wanted to major in psychology because that was another class I took in high school. Those were literally the only two classes in high school that I liked were drama and psychology, and I went in both directions. It's a little bit crazy now that I think back on it, but anyway. So I knew I was going to major in psychology. I did major in psychology. I enjoyed the psychology classes and other than that I was just flapping. I was just out there floundering, I didn't know where I was going to go, I didn't know what I was going to do. But then I did that show and it was the best summer of my life. I was making more money than I'd ever made, I was having more fun than I was ever having and, more importantly, I felt finally grounded and like I had direction, like I knew where I belonged and where I was supposed to go.

Brian Hite:

And that made my senior year of college very, very hard and I ended up dropping out. I dropped out after I finished the first semester, but I dropped out in the second semester and left to go to LA and be a stuntman and luckily they had the same show out there at the Six Flags that they had in New Jersey. So I was able to get hired in LA as a stuntman in the stunt show pretty easily. And then I did that while I was making my way in the film and TV world, and that's what happened. And then, I don't know, four or five years later I realized I missed learning. So I went back, I finished the bachelor's degree and then I continued on with the master's and the PhD. I finished the bachelor's degree and then I continued on with the master's and the PhD, but not because I ever thought that I'd make a living or have a career in those areas.

Brian Hite:

It was just like you said. It's interesting. It has always interested me. This idea of the mind and the power that it has over our daily lives and in particular, our performance situations and how well we do when it really matters. That to me. Me has always been intriguing. So I just that's why I was in the programs. I just expected I'd be a stuntman forever.

Brian Hite:

And then life does what it does and I found myself in Washington State working as a consultant for the US Army, as a sport and performance psychology consultant, and I did that for two years and that was fun, Got to do some cool things, and that program was specifically geared toward performance, meaning the soldiers, you know, we go out to the range and help them shoot better. Or the physical training that they do and help them, you know, stay focused and get in shape more efficiently. Or the combat engineers finding IEDs better, or the artillery people and the shooting the cannons. So all of that stuff is what it is that I did there. Two years later I ended up leaving that job, going back to LA doing stunts again for another four or five years and then rinse and repeat. I went back to the Army job again, but this time out in the Nashville area. I went to Fort Campbell.

Brian Hite:

And they'd expanded the program in a really important way, at least for me and particularly at that point in my life. They still had the performance side of it and that was great, but they'd added a resilience side and for me personally at the time I was the marriage was hard and then that ended and going into divorce. I was there nine years. So there was a lot of stuff happening in those nine years, but my focus was on this resilience program and it was designed theoretically from psychology. It's all coming from basically the same place as the performance psychology stuff, but the intent was different and the intent was to provide the soldiers with resources, tools, skills that they could use whenever something came up, not just in a specific performance setting but just in life. If you have a challenging conversation with a spouse, how do you handle it? If you have kids that are having whatever the problems are, what do you do with it? If you've got bills that are stressing you out, how do you handle that? So the resilience program was really a broader scope and I gravitated toward that and I did a lot of work in that area until I ended up quitting About two and a half three years ago.

Brian Hite:

That job had just run its course and I opened my own business at the time thinking that I'd be doing just sport performance psychology consulting meaning working with athletes and performers singers, dancers, musicians, etc. With getting their middle of. Whatever your performance setting is, how do you make sure that you're focused, that you're engaged, that you're fully capable of bringing the best of who you are in that moment? That's what I thought I was going to be doing and I did it for a little bit. But I realized pretty quickly that I like the stages, I like the keynote speaking, I like the group coaching, I like the workshops at the different organizational settings and whatnot. So I shifted gears a little bit and switched over to Brian Haidt Global, which is what my business is now, and that's what I do. I do keynote speaking, I do workshops, I have some group coaching classes set up. I'll still do some individual coaching from time to time. I'm just more choosy, I'm pickier about who it is that I take.

Brian Hite:

But and I've zeroed my or I've narrowed my focus a little bit to not in terms of population. I work with corporate education, athletes, performers and first responders, Work with all of those different groups, but in the area of high stakes performance and that's something where, like you said, it's just been very recently where I've been able to seamlessly bring in the stunt experience I mean the 30 years of my life, because I never stopped doing stunts. Even when I was working for the army, I was still taking jobs when they would come up. So 30 years of my life because I never stopped doing stunts. Even when I was working for the Army, I was still taking jobs when they would come up. So 30 years of stunt experience, melding that with the sport and performance and organizational psychology experiences in order to create this area, this niche of expertise that I can share. That's a really important one.

Brian Hite:

I mean, so many people find themselves in these high and this is an important bit of terminology that I throw out there high stakes environments, not high pressure environments, not high stress environments and we can get into why in a little bit but high stakes environments, environments where the consequences matter, they're important to you and that's what that is. So it is. It's really cool that now, at this point in my life, it used to be all right. Well, which hat am I going to wear today? Am I going to wear the stunt hat? Am I going to wear the writer hat? Am I going to wear what am I going to do Now? It's just all part of my job and I just I get excited about waking up in the morning.

Jennifer Loehding:

I may do things, but it's all serving the same purpose, it's moving in the same direction. No, I like it. I like it when I get the umbrella. And it's interesting listening to you because I feel like you and I have parallels different things Obviously, I'm not a stunt person, but I feel like we have some parallels in our work and it's funny when I was listening to you talk about well, I do some coaching but I'm moving more to like group and that's really where my work is too. I don't care so much about the speaking part in as much as I love doing the group stuff Like I'm much more of a do a presentation, bring people into something, the individual coaching. I do have some of those clients, but I get exhausted from that. I really it wears me out to get like cause you're so invested in that and for me it's natural for me to hop on like a podcast or to do in front of.

Jennifer Loehding:

I've been doing presentations for 20 something years. You know it's easy for me to get in front of a group of people and do something, versus if I have one. I taught aerobics many years. I used to laugh because I hated teaching classes where I had a few people in the room. I wanted a group of 20 to 30 40 people in there, because we had energy and excitement and people were like you know, know, I'd have a few in there, and if they weren't highly motivated, then the energy would like I'd be like no, this just isn't working, you know. So I can hear some of your stuff, but the other thing I really like about what you're doing and I feel like this is where you and I kind of have a parallel is that you're getting like to the root of like this whole, like giving tools to people that they can use that are not just about right here in this moment. They're applicable in all areas, and that's a lot of the work that I do.

Jennifer Loehding:

I always tell people that I'm not like I don't slap band-aids on things. I'm not that kind of person. So if you want to sit down and have a surface level conversation with me, you're probably going to get bored with me pretty quickly, because I'm going to get bored with you. That's probably what's going to happen, because I just can't do it. I can't do it, you know like, and I can do it for about two minutes and then I'm just out the door, you know. So I'm always interested in why we're doing the behaviors that we're doing, like, why are we doing these repetitive patterns of behavior? And I just ended up. I'm actually right now I just built a micro niche course to a bigger course that I built and it's all around basically reclaiming our time and increasing our profits.

Jennifer Loehding:

But it's really the psychology. It's getting back to why we're doing the patterns of behavior that are keeping us stuck. You know, like, like given somebody. You know, in the 20 years I was at Mary Kay, you know I could give somebody a script and no matter how many times I told them to memorize the script or to practice after what I said, it did not matter, because if they showed up on the phone with the script and they weren't in the right place, the right frame of mind or in the right thinking or their belief systems weren't right, they would come back and they would have no results and they'd be like well, I did the script because it's not about the widgets or the hacks or all of that. It's about the mindset and the beliefs and all of the stuff that we're carrying with us when we do it. So I really like that you're getting into this whole. That's why I wanted to ask you about psychology, because that the psychology fascinates me. I mean, we're complex human beings, you know, we're just complex, so I love it.

Brian Hite:

Yes, now, the complexity is something that I lean into as well and I tell all my clients too I'm like it's. Yes, I'm a sport, performance, organizational, psychology person and and when we think of psychology, we think of the mind and you should cause, that's really what it is, but we're, it's all existing within a human being and there are a lot of other components and they all influence each other. So I let them know like we're going to talk about physical, mental, emotional, social and sometimes I get into spiritual too. Spiritual, not from a religious standpoint, but from a we're part of something larger than ourselves standpoint, like we're just we got to get out of our little individual bubble and connected to the larger thing, and that comes up a lot of times with clients as well.

Brian Hite:

But the thing that really is interesting and I think important to remember is all of those things. They are all separate words and you can define them all differently, but they exist together synergistically, in ways that are inseparable from each other. Anything happening physically is going to impact the mental, and whatever's going on in our minds impacts us physically and all of that impacts emotions and all of those influence you know just how we interact with people, or even if we'll interact with people. So there's really no hard separation between any of those things. They all just go together. So I'm with you on that. The holistic approach to targeting human well-being and performance, which is another thing that I emphasize. I really do want you to do better at your performances and in these settings that really matter to you, and I want to create conditions for you to be happy while you're doing it and to create that longevity and just experience overall well-being, not just happiness, but just overall well-being, a sense of contentment and physical well-being as well.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, no, I agree with you and all those words that you were talking about. Yes, that's what I tell people. It's like when somebody comes to you and they see you over here and they go OK, well, you're this. I'm also, I was a former marathon runner, so I get kind of the performance side of things too, you know, and it's interesting that when I talk to people, you know like defining, like what, how do you define success? And you hear a lot of these. Well, I look at it, you know like money, but I think it's just money or it's this or this, and I think what happens is, over time, some people get it, some never do, I think. But I think what you're saying is kind of the same thing that I say, that that true success really is a myriad of all of these things that come together right, and that's why I was on somebody's podcast the other day and it was funny because she was, she had been on mine, she was a former journalist or a former news anchor and she had you know on former journalist or former news anchor and she had you know, on the outside appearance was living the life, she was making a good income, but underneath she was binge drinking and dealing with depression and all of this stuff. And it was funny because she was asking me how I define success. And she said it's so weird, you've never mentioned any money, like you've never said anything about money.

Jennifer Loehding:

And I said well, you know, like I had 22 years in Mary Kay where I was in leadership, where I was crunching numbers all the time. It's about quotas, quotas, quotas, quotas. And don't get me wrong, we used to say when you don't have money, it ranks with breathing. You need cash to live. We've got to live right, we've got to pay our bills, we've got to eat, all of those things, but my priorities have shifted. That is important, but that is not the only thing that defines it. And so she asked me. She said well, how do you define it? And I said, you know, because I have a health condition. And so what I told her is I said, when I get up in the morning and I'm excited about my work and I'm creating and I'm feeling good, to me, that is success, because everything else will follow, because the money will come, when I'm happy about what I'm doing and I'm excited, and I'm happy about what I'm doing and I'm excited and I'm passionate and so if I have those things in place, for me everything else is just going to come, is coming along.

Jennifer Loehding:

But to your point also, even about the physical part of this, like I just got certified in neurological fitness and talking about, like the nervous system and how we can't like outthink our minds right, our body cannot, like we can't outthink our bodies, basically is what I'm saying, we can't outthink our bodies. So if our bodies basically is what I'm saying we can't outthink our bodies so if our bodies are not right, then, yes, it affects our mind, right, and so, yes, it is all this big puzzle of pieces that we have to really look at. And you probably are like me, where it's like you have to just take somebody, you know when they come in, if you're doing an individual, take them where they are and kind of move them, you know, from this step to this step, to this step to this step, and eventually they just kind of keep, you know, adding those things on. So I love your work, I think it's great.

Brian Hite:

Yeah, I, the definition of success is always one of the first things that I bring up as well, and we have that conversation and the way I try to help people understand it is is through those areas that I was just talking about. So how? So what might be a definition of success physically?

Jennifer Loehding:

Right.

Brian Hite:

And this is not just in life, this is so for this year or this month, or, if it's an athlete, for this upcoming competition or tournament or whatever. It is physically, what is success Mentally? What is success so physically? I made sure that I stretched before everything and I felt energized at the end of the race, as opposed to tired productive thinking to productive thinking or pessimistic thinking to optimistic thinking. Emotionally, I was able to generate and create the type of emotion necessary for me to perform well in this situation and I recognized and was able to regulate some of those emotions that are counterproductive. For example, maybe after the race, I didn't do as well as I wanted to, so I felt guilty or I felt shamed or I felt frustrated and I knew that I had to race again. So I was able to regulate that, manage it, shift it and do that Socially. I was able to reach out to a friend for support when I didn't do as well, I had a little conversation. Or when I had a friend coming over wanting to talk my ear off right before I'm about to race, I was able to disengage in a way that kept our relationship the way that it needed to be. So these are all, just some of those definitions of success that they can start thinking about and get out of the outcome of I want to place in the top three.

Brian Hite:

Yeah, well, okay, but a couple things with that. The main one is you can't control that. There are too many other variables at play. Too many other people who get a say in where you place and where you don't. You can't control that. There are too many other variables at play. Too many other people who get a say in where you place and where you don't. You can't control any of it. So let's talk about number one what are some other definitions of success in these key areas? And let's leverage which of those things you can control and which ones you can't. And that's really a place where I start, often with people.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, no, I like it and I like that you're putting them in those perspectives. I think it's great because a lot of times people don't know. You know, and you ask them. It's funny because you'll ask them you know what is? How do you? And I have to do that too. I have to give them parameters. I have to say, in this category, in this category, in this category, cause they'll be like what's you know, what's your definition of success? And they're like, um, I want to make a lot of money, okay, well, is that it? And how do we define that? You know, but I love, I think they hear that I really like what you pointed out is you know the end result.

Jennifer Loehding:

Coming back to, how do we create the wins that are actually attainable? Because I do think a lot of times. You know, even as an athlete, I know my husband's an endurance athlete and I've been. I've always been an athlete, but I was a runner for a long time and I know it's easy to get wrapped up into those. You know you're trying to be at a certain in your age group or whatever. You want to win first or second or third place in your age group and you never know who's going to show up that day on the race, right, you're not running the Olympics, so you know who the runners are coming in. You're doing another type and somebody's coming in or whatever.

Jennifer Loehding:

And you know how do you set these metrics that are actually stretching you but they're attainable, to create some kind of a win where you don't just get exhausted when you don't get to the end. Right, like it's. I used to use the parallel, like when you run the marathon, you know you spend all this time training, right, it's kind of like having a baby, you spend all this time. Then you get to the end and you're like, oh, it's over. Now what? Right, because you never enjoyed the process going from here to here. You were so hell bent on the end result getting to the day, getting to that day, and now it's over. And you're like, now, how do I top that? Or like, what do I do now? You know, and so I, like you know this idea of creating these wins that you can get and defining success in a way that's measurable stretching but measurable and to help, you know, create the win and the confidence.

Brian Hite:

Well, and the other piece too. There are a couple of things in what you said. I mean. One is if the definition of success is the outcome, again, we don't have a whole lot of control over that, so it makes sense to back it up a step. So let's just go backwards, okay.

Brian Hite:

So let's say a soccer, you know, you ask a soccer player what do you want to do? Like, what's success? Well, we're going to win the tournament Great, okay. So how do you win the tournament? Well, we have to win more games than the other teams do. Great, you're absolutely right. So how do you win games? Well, we score more goals than the other team does. Yes, you do. So how do you score goals? Well, we pass. Well, we shoot. Well, we get up off the ground, we make mistakes. We keep our attitude and energy levels where they need to be. Yeah, that's what you do. So let's start making some objectives and goals around that, because that you can control and, like you just pointed out, all of those things are what are necessary for your end state that you want. So, rather than focusing on the end state, which is useless, we focus on the things that we can do in the moment. That will set conditions for that end state to manifest.

Jennifer Loehding:

So that's one big, thing, and then goals.

Brian Hite:

like you were saying, one of the things that can be problematic with that is what you just described, which has a name. It's called the hedonic treadmill, where we set a goal, we achieve the goal, we get very, very happy for a little bit and then we're not happy anymore and then we have to find something else to go pursue. So if our entire lives are centered around these objectives that we define for ourselves, or that are defined for us in some cases, if that's all we have, then yeah, there are very, very short, small, minuscule pockets of excitement, joy, happiness. The rest is just spent in desire, craving, unhappiness, dissatisfaction with where we are, and that's not a good way to spend life. So, understanding how we can embrace the process, put our attention on those things in the moment that will ultimately lead us to that end goal, that's where we can truly experience well-being, I believe.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, no, I agree with you on all of it. I think we're on a similar page. I always love it when I meet people that are kind of doing similar work, because it's like, oh, you get it, because I feel like there's so many people out there that are in the space that we do the coaching space, leadership executive, all of that stuff that we do and I, you know, like I've always been really interested in, like I mean, I was in leadership for a very long time, so I get the leadership stuff. I love all that. But I'm really interested in, like the entrepreneur, like the human being, like them as the entrepreneur and the leader within themselves, because I know that when we get right with ourselves, we can learn to find that joy and that happiness.

Jennifer Loehding:

And that comes from all of these things you and I've been talking about here. Right, like focusing on the journey and creating the wins in between, and even discipline. I mean you were alluding to some of that. When we talk about creating those things we can control to get to the end thing that we're wanting to get, or whatever, right, all of these things that we're doing, I feel like when we put the emphasis in the very beginning, they show up differently. Their relationships are different, like everything about their world is different. When they show up healthy and whole and in their term of success, whatever you know like, whatever that healthy definition of success looks in all those categories, yeah, mm-hmm.

Brian Hite:

Yeah, one of the things that you just mentioned about entrepreneur a lot of people, I mean and that's what this is associated with is you start your own business and there are some aspects to that. But I like to think about terms differently and this is kind of where my approach to pressure and stress come from too. But, for example, when I say performance, most people think about the stage or the athletic realm or whatever it is, but it doesn't have to be. I mean the way that I define performance. Most people think about the stage or the athletic realm or whatever it is, but it doesn't have to be. I mean the way that I define performance. It's anything that we're doing, that we really care about doing well, where the consequences are important to us, that's a performance. And I mentioned a couple earlier. If you have a conversation with a spouse that you know is not, it's not going to be a fun conversation, but it is a necessary conversation, that is a performance. Disciplining a kid, that is a performance. Leading a meeting at work, that's a performance. A meeting with, like, a parent-teacher conference, that's a performance, or it can be. So it really depends on what we think is important. That's a performance, can be, you know. So it really depends on how. What we think is important, that's a performance.

Brian Hite:

Another word that I like to define more broadly is leader, because, again, that in our minds tends to trigger the thought of the formal leader who is in a leadership position, who is in charge of people, and it's very easy to see all that very explicitly. But there are a couple other forms of leader. One is an informal leader, and that's just a person who's in a group, who, for whatever reason, they just have leadership qualities and people look to them for advice. They're not in any formal leadership role, but that's just that's kind of the role that they play. But I go even broader than that and I argue that every single one of us is a leader, because a leader influences others. I mean, at its core that's what leadership is is that we influence other people, and any conversation, any interaction that we have with anybody at any point is influencing that person, and in fact we don't even have to talk to them Sometimes. Just our attitude, our demeanor, our energy that we're carrying around a room with us influences other people. We don't even know it sometimes, but it's happening. So that's why I say like, when we think of performance, think bigger. When we think of leader, think bigger.

Brian Hite:

And I think that with entrepreneur it's the same thing. We don't have to just be fixated on business. Entrepreneur just means that you have an idea in your mind of something that you want to exist that currently doesn't. So maybe it's. For example, I just got an electric drum set for Christmas. Never played drums in my life other than in my car, banging the steering wheel and stuff, but it's just never happened.

Brian Hite:

But for me it's a new, it's a new project, it's a new thing, so okay. So how do I go about learning how to play the drums? What's the process? What are the things that I need to get? What are the skills that I need to learn? How do I practice them? How do I put it into my schedule?

Brian Hite:

These are all entrepreneurial things, where you go from what you don't have and you don't you know you're not doing to what you do have and what you are doing and what you're proficient at. So having that entrepreneurial mindset, I think, is a way to think about pursuing some different hobbies or engaging with different social groups or really just any kind of life change. And this is the time of year for you and I are talking you know, mid-january-ish the whole New Year's resolution thing Any change that you want to make, take an entrepreneurial approach. It's a brand new thing. What do you need in order to make it happen and then start looking for the resources and start executing. So again, I just I like taking those broader perspectives on that stuff.

Jennifer Loehding:

I agree, and interesting that you even say that, because people always ask me, like, who is the like, who are the people that listen to this show? And you know, I've always said I don't want to say that it's just the entrepreneur, as the, just the business person that's like the you're thinking of, like the person that's opera visitor creators in here, and I've had people from all and I'm a creator. So you know, when I, when I think about all these things you're talking about, yeah, I don't like to define it as it being this one type of person that we're looking for. So I tell people, like, who are the people that are listening to this show? It could be an athlete, it could be a musician, it could be a stay-at-home mom who's in a network marketing like I used to do. It could be the CEO of the company I don't know. It could be one of the company. I don't know. It could be the one of the leadership people in the company. I don't know, because the whole show is really about, you know, leadership and leadership really can transcend into a lot of different areas, right? Well, you've said you can be a leader in your home. You could be a leader at your church. You could be a leader at your school. So I agree with you, I, I I mean a hundred percent on on that. Um, yeah, good stuff, good stuff.

Jennifer Loehding:

I would like to ask you, though, a little bit, because I was looking at some of your. So, of course, when I, you know, when I'm like I got to find out who Brian Hyde is because when the first day I talked to him, like I'm looking at all this stuff, I'm like, okay, he's got all these cool things and I have I actually like he showed us like some of the movies, like where he was actually the stunt double. So I was looking at some of your stuff and so you've done a lot of really. You've been in some prominent movies. I've seen some of the stuff in there. So maybe share with our audience a little bit, because they're going to be like I know, when they get done with this, they're going to be like who's this Brian Hyde guy? They're going to go look you up and find the what is it?

Brian Hite:

the IDBM or whatever that they go and they look on there and find out who you are. So share a little bit about that with us. Yeah, no, out this year. Actually, I worked on the new seasons of Stranger Things and the Cleaning Lady and Righteous Gemstones, so those are all coming out.

Brian Hite:

I doubled Nick Offerman in a movie called Sovereign. That's coming out I believe March is the last I heard there and I worked on Superman, genesis. I'm not sure when that's coming out, but that's going to be a big one, probably this summer. So I'm still going, I'm still still doing it. It's it's, it's a good time and, uh, and it really has been a just a terrific journey. I I've. I like I said, I was in it and then I was mostly out of it when I went to the army the first time, and then I was back in it again, and then I was back in it again and then I was mostly out of it when I went back to the Army job the next time and then now since I left that Army job, I've been back in it again full time along with everything else, it's just a great group of people.

Brian Hite:

It's a fun place where you get to, even if it's I've done I don't know how many fight scenes, but every single one of them is different. I've fallen down a bunch of flights of stairs, but every time it's different. The stairs are different, the story, the thing that you're supposed to do, is different. I've been hit by a car probably a dozen times. Every single time it's different. It's not doing the same thing ever.

Brian Hite:

Every day when you show up on set, even if it's on the same show, if you're on a show for a month, there's nothing that's the same. You're maybe in a different location or you're on stage this day or today. You worked in the day and then next time it's night, and there's just always a different dynamic. So it is a fun, fun, fun environment. I'm incredibly grateful to have been able to spend the 30 years that I've spent doing it, doing it, and I hope to continue to do. As long as people will continue to hire me. I'll continue to take the jobs because because it's just I really connect with with the people and I really enjoy the work.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, that's so interesting. I imagine it's. You know, it is like a niche of people that are in this, and that's kind of what I got from talking to those other guys before it sort of you know, I would love to know, like you said, he got hit by car. Is that like the scariest stunt thing that you've done, or has there been like one that's just been like really crazy that you were like you?

Brian Hite:

know it's funny when I get the question of what was the scariest thing you ever did, because it doesn't sound scary when I tell the story, but I'll or when I tell the beginning of it. But because all it was was just jumping up on a ledge, that's all it was. I was, it was on a TV show called numbers and I was running across a roof for some reason and and I jumped up on this ledge that was maybe a foot and a half high and pretty much anybody could have jumped up on it. The ledge itself wasn't really narrow, it was maybe a foot, so you could get most of your foot up on the ledge. So again, it wasn't like walking on a balance beam or something, so it wasn't that hard a thing.

Brian Hite:

What made it scary was that on the other side of the ledge was a 50-foot drop to the concrete and I didn't have anything connecting me to anything. So I'm running a full sprint across this roof and supposed to jump up onto this ledge and just stop and then stand there for a while with my arms out, like out to the side, and it was that. So if I caught a toe or if I slipped, I mean if anything would have happened, you and I wouldn't be talking right now.

Jennifer Loehding:

Oh my gosh.

Brian Hite:

Very confident about that. So so again, just very easy physical movement. But the circumstances in which those were happening, yeah, yeah.

Jennifer Loehding:

Well, we wouldn't have the movies. Yeah, we wouldn't have movies if we didn't have people like you that are willing to do that stuff. I think it's impressive. I like no way I'm too scared of anything. I was going to tell people. I said I like heights. I don't like heights, I don't like, I don't even want to skydive. You know, everybody like that's on their bucket list. I'm like my bucket list involves things like things I want to do with my business or whatever, like things I want to create manifest. But that's okay. I think that's what we've kind of said here. Everybody has their thing, like how we define what entrepreneur is right. But it's funny because I hear all these people, these entrepreneurs, are like I want to go skydive and it's on my bucket list. Brian, that is not on my bucket list. I could care less if I ever skydive. It's okay, I'm totally fine with it. Maybe one day I'll wake up and be like we're just going to go all out. But I don't know, not now.

Brian Hite:

There's plenty of other things to do. The world's a big place with a lot of fun stuff. You know, it's one of the things I like to travel. I like to take my daughter. I have an 11-year-old daughter and then I have a fiancée too that we've been living together for a year and a half and she has two boys, nine and 12. And both of us really agree that we want to get the kids out and seeing the world and seeing different places as often as we can.

Brian Hite:

Now, with five of us, it's a whole lot different than it was when there was only two, my daughter and me. But when I had her, I would take her every year we'd go somewhere. I've take her every year we'd go somewhere. I've taken her to Mexico a few times, a few different places around Mexico. I've taken her to Hawaii. I've taken her to New York. We've gone a lot of different places because there's just so much to do, and when I think of it she's like, can we go back to New York or can we go back to Hawaii? I'm like no man, the world is a huge place we got to. Let's go do something different. And so I really have that attitude Whatever, skydive or don't skydive. There's plenty of other stuff out there that you can do.

Jennifer Loehding:

I'm not worried about it. I just think it's funny because it's not one. But you know what? I think it's great that you're taking your daughter traveling because, I agree with you, that is an experience of its own. My middle child just turned 24, and she went to Europe for, saved her money up and went to Europe for the summer. But it was crazy because she flew into Ireland and went to the St Paddy's Day there, which was kind of an interesting experience. And then she flew to Germany and went to Switzerland and then France and then back to Amsterdam and flew home and she said it was like the best time ever, I mean.

Jennifer Loehding:

But it was so fun to just kind of listen to her experience, like just the nuances of the language and the cultural differences and funny things like how you can't get iced coffee over there, like you just can't get it. They don't do it there, you know, and you think we do that here, everywhere, you know. So I think take like allowing. I think traveling for anyone is good if you can do it, and I think it's admirable that you're taking your dog, you know, taking the kids to do that because it makes them aware of other you know cultures and and just even different parts of this country. People do different things, you know. So I think it's good.

Brian Hite:

Yeah, I think that's one of the things I tell her all the time. My job, as your dad is to is to help you experience things in a way that allows you to grow into the best woman that you can grow into, and I think that having a broader knowledge and awareness of what there is in this country like you said, there are differences here, but then around the globe as well is a big part of that, is a big part of that. We can get too easily sucked into our own little bubbles and our own little worlds and then assume that everybody else sees the world through our lenses and they just don't. And I think that that's an important perspective to be able to take to step out of ourselves and into other people's shoes. And you can't help but do that when you go to a different culture because they're doing things and you look at it like what is happening right now and you ask some questions. You all right.

Brian Hite:

Well, yeah, I see that we don't do that at home. I wonder why we don't. I mean, that's that's truly some of the the coolest moments that I've had. I'm like, what are you guys doing? They tell me and well, okay, we should do that I don't know what's.

Brian Hite:

What's wrong with the us? Why aren't we working that way too?

Jennifer Loehding:

so, uh, anyway, yeah, that's fun fun thing yeah, and you kind of said that, even through the work too, when we were talking earlier about you know the definition of what the entrepreneur is and all that being broader scoped, that we're not pigeonholing people into like boxes and categories, right like we're giving. We're able to say that this definition you know is be broader, and that's what I think that perspective is too is that when you travel and stuff, you're saying, ok, the whole country, we're not all going to think the same or operate the same or do everything the same. So it's wise to be aware of what's going on around you and to learn other things and take in knowledge. And so I'm with you on all of that. I get it, totally get it.

Jennifer Loehding:

So, brian, if our audience wants to get in touch with you, maybe they want to learn a little bit more about your programs, maybe they want to. I'm sure they're going to be like after they hear this. They're going to be like let me look this guy up now, find out who he is, cause I did the same thing when I met you the first time, like I got to find you. Where would you like us to?

Brian Hite:

send them BrianHiteGlobalcom, B-R-I-A-N-H-I-T-E Global, G-L-O-B-A-Lcom, and I will say this If you're somebody who struggles with stress, struggles under pressure, feels overwhelmed in different situations, maybe there's burnout happening, whatever it is, and you don't have somebody to work with you to hold your hand through some of those processes, please check out the website, check out the programs that I offer and send me an email, brian at brianhiteglobalcom, or just schedule a discovery call. You could do that right on the website too. I've been through all of it personally, and so I bring the personal experience in with the academic in a way that I don't know that people have found helpful and I really I just enjoy the work because I understand how hard those situations can be. So just check out the website, see if anything interests you, and if it does reach out, I will absolutely get back to you.

Jennifer Loehding:

All right, thanks, brian. We'll make sure when we do the show notes we'll get your website in there so they know how to find you. So I appreciate your time today and all your wisdom and keep doing your thing. We'll be looking forward to some of these things coming out. I'm familiar with. I know some of those shows you were taught, or at least one of those that you were talking about I'm familiar with. But we'll be looking for your work and all of that good stuff and then, of course, to out Brian. But also you know what to do on our end. Hit the subscribe like comment, do all those things, share it so that we can keep sharing all this fabulous content. And, as I always say, in order to live the extraordinary, you must start, and every start begins with a decision. You guys, take care, be safe, be kind to one another and we will see you next time. Thank you.

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