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The Skydiver Who Turned 12,000 Jumps into a Success System (with Bryan Gile, 8-Time World Record Holder, Entrepreneur & Author of Be Great, Be Happy)

• Jennifer Loehding • Season 7 • Episode 102

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What does it take to turn 12,000 skydives into a blueprint for success in life and business?

In this episode of the Starter Girlz Podcast, host Jennifer Loehding sits down with Bryan Gile — an 8-time world-record-holding skydiver, entrepreneur, and author of Be Great, Be Happy.

Bryan shares how he overcame self-doubt, fear, and failure by developing a repeatable belief system that anyone can train. His story bridges the adrenaline of skydiving with the discipline of entrepreneurship, proving that belief isn’t just a feeling… it’s a system you can build.

What You’ll Learn:
✅ How to recognize and replace negative self-talk with productive beliefs
✅ How to build confidence through small, consistent wins
✅ Use the “Recognize, Transform, Act” framework to rewire your mindset
✅ How to perform under pressure — even on your worst day
✅ How to turn fear into focused action and momentum
✅ How to apply the compound effect to business, health, and personal growth

This episode is packed with real-world tools to help you train your belief system and take control of your goals. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, athlete, or someone seeking personal transformation, Bryan’s insights will help you push past fear and perform with conviction.

Connect with Bryan Gile:
📘 Book: Be Great, Be Happy
🌐 Website: https://bryangile.com

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Bryan Gile:

So, neuroplasticity, for anyone who isn't familiar, it is the phenomenon that your brain can literally physically change structure based upon how you think. And there's a saying in the neuroscience field that neurons that fire together wire together. Essentially, what we can do with this is we can learn how to reprogram our brains so that positive, uplifting, empowering thoughts that would propel us towards difficult goals because everyone has a down day. Everyone's going to have, you know, days where you doubt your ability to succeed and all that stuff.

Jennifer Loehding:

Welcome to the Starter Girlz Podcast, your ultimate source of inspiration and empowerment. We're here to help women succeed in every area of their lives: career, money, relationships, and health and well-being. While celebrating the remarkable journeys of individuals from all walks of life who've achieved amazing things. Whether you're looking to supercharge your career, build financial independence, nurture meaningful relationships, or enhance your overall well-being. The Starter Girlz Podcast is here to guide you. Join us as we explore the journeys of those who dare to dream big and achieve greatness. I'm your host, Jennifer Loehding, and welcome to this episode. Welcome to another episode of the Starter Girlz Podcast. I am your host, Jennifer Loehding, and wherever you are tuning in today, we are so glad to have you. So excited about my guest today. Here we are, another episode, and another fabulous guest coming on the show. So I'm gonna open up with this. Imagine free falling from 13,000 feet over 12,000 times. Now imagine taking that same boldness into business, learning languages, martial arts, surfing, and even writing. My guest today has turned risk into resilience and adrenaline into a system for success and fulfillment. And so I am so excited about this episode. I think it's gonna be a great show today. And so before we welcome him on here, I do want to do a quick shout out to our sponsor. This episode is brought to you by Walt Mills Productions. Need to add excitement to your YouTube videos or some expert hands for editing? Look no further. Walt Mills is the solution you've been searching for. Walt is not only your go-to guy for spicing up content, he's the force behind a thriving film production company with numerous titles in the pipeline. Always on the lookout for raw talent. Walt is eager to collaborate on film and internet productions. With a background deeply rooted in entertainment and promotion, Walt Mills leverages years of skills to give you the spotlight you deserve. Want to learn more about Walt and his work? Head on over to Walt Mills Productions.net and let your content shine. All right. And with that, I do want to make a mention to head on over to startergirls.com. I tell you this every single week. And why? Because one, you can catch up with any episodes that you've missed, even those really bad ones in the beginning. They're still there. You can sign up for our community newsletter, stay in the know of what we have coming up. And then, of course, if you are an aspiring entrepreneur or maybe you are in the thick of it right now and you want to find out what your number one success block is that may be hindering your success. I have a two-minute quiz over there that I have designed that you can take, and it's kind of fun. So head on over to startergirlz.com. And as I always say, do your thing. All right. So we are ready to bring the guest on today. I'm so excited about this today. So he is an eight-time world record-holding professional skydiver with more than 12,000 jumps, a seasoned traveler who has lived in seven countries, a speaker of three languages. That's impressive, by the way. A yogi, a surfer, a Brazilian jiu-jitsu practitioner, and an entrepreneur. He's also the creator of Be Great, Be Happy, a system born from his own experience turning challenges into strengths. So I want to welcome my guest today, Bryan Gile, to the show. We are so excited to have you here. So welcome, Bryan.

Bryan Gile:

Jennifer, thank you for having me. You're a really great podcaster so far. That was a great intro. Uh, you know, awesome to be here.

Jennifer Loehding:

Thank you. I have so much fun with those intros. I love the conversations, but I love those intros. I have so much fun. I'm like, man, you know what? Just put me on the stage and I'll be your MC. If you need a person to like shine the spotlight on you, let me be there. That's I think that's probably my greatest gift gift in all of this.

Bryan Gile:

So yeah, you got it. Well, thank you for having me.

Jennifer Loehding:

Absolutely. All right, so let's jump into this. I don't even know where I want to start. You got so many things going on. I'm so excited. I think what I want to know first and foremost is I want to back this up. I want to know how you got into skydiving. I want to start right there. I want you to tell me how that all started for you.

Bryan Gile:

Uh my dad, actually, he he's the guilty one. Uh, I blame it all on him. Yeah. He has been jumping for over 55 years or something like that. He was skydiving when it was like actually dangerous back in the days. Uh, so I grew up watching him jump out of airplanes in the 80s. I was born in '83 in Oregon. And every single weekend my dad wanted to go skydive. And so he just had a little daycare set up for us in the fields out where they were jumping out of airplanes in Oregon. So that's what I grew up doing on weekends is just watching my dad skydive. And it was kind of a big lead up to my 16th birthday. That was when I was finally able to go. And I don't know if you've ever watched someone do something really, really cool for like 16 years that you weren't able to do, but uh it kind of puts like a burning desire in you to want to try it. And I knew I was going to be a skydiver when I was in grade school. Like I used to write, you know, when you go into grade school and they're on your first day of school, middle school too, they're like, hey, what do you like to do, Jennifer? And what are your favorite sports? I would literally say that skydiving was my favorite sport at the age of like nine. And then I would put in parentheses when I'm 16.

Jennifer Loehding:

Wow, you were doing affirmations.

Bryan Gile:

Yeah, straight up.

Jennifer Loehding:

Wow. I know I'm like, I'd be like, okay, like, so my sister's a teacher, my daughter's a teacher. So I'm wondering, like, they see this and they're like, this kid like wants to be a skydiver. Like, what started that conversation, right? So crazy. Okay, so um, nobody in my family's done that kind of crazy, but my husband is an in what was an endurance athlete. So he would do, I thought, pretty crazy things, like run, you know, a hundred miles, you know, for like 16 hours. I think he did a one like a record, did it in like 15 hours. But there's these people that have done them like, you know, even crazier than that. But I'm like, never like, you know, like I see this and I think, you know, what are these things that like I've talked to these different athletes and different people that get into these things, and I was like, what are these things that like trigger them to want to do this stuff? And so totally I can when I hear yours, I could see this. And so I imagine it's this child, you see your dad. This was like the norm for you because you just saw this. Because I'm thinking, what, you know, like that honestly, I think it's so cool people do that, but that is like one thing. I went to, I went to get this. You're gonna, you're gonna think this is so funny of me. I went to a nine-inch snails concert on um Saturday night. They're one of my favorite bands. And uh we got we had great view, no obstruction, but we were up like on the second floor, and I get in and I'm like, oh it's a slope like this with the balcony, and then the next thing, and I my heart is like I'm like trying to slide and get to the my seat and just sit, right? Just sit. I didn't want to move. I did not.

Bryan Gile:

Did you ride on the railing like where it drops off?

Jennifer Loehding:

No, thank God. I was up at the top. But then I but here was the thing, I didn't think that was any better because I was thinking, heck, if I just accidentally fall, like I'm just gonna go rolling and go flying off. I was so grateful when people started sitting in the seats because then I thought, well, if I roll at least I'm gonna fall on somebody, you know. But by the time I got over it, by the time the music came on, I was up the whole time. I never sat down, I was totally fine, but I'm telling you, the heights thing, so in a million years, the skydiving thing, I'm like, anybody that wants to go do that, I'm like, hey, if you're cool, go do it. I'm like, that would scare the DBs out of me. Like heights just scare me.

Bryan Gile:

Yeah, you know, it's it's not for everyone. Um, certainly it is something that you can get over the fear of heights. And one thing that I I know we're gonna lead into today, you you kind of mentioned it a little bit ago is that you know, I was kind of just born into this and and always knew I was gonna do it. Yeah. This is a business podcast, it's it's a lot of things, but you know, like we're bringing entrepreneurial ideas forth as like a primary part of the podcast, right?

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah.

Bryan Gile:

The reason why I was able to become an eight-time world record holder in skydiving is because I had I never even questioned whether or not I would fail that goal. Yeah, I was just I was just, you know, by chance born into this sport and I had to work for it. I had to practice at it. Um, but I knew that I was going to do this thing once I grew up. And once I started skydiving and I saw what other people were doing in the sport, I knew that there was nothing that I wouldn't be able to learn how to do in the field of human flight. And uh a lot of people don't know how skydiving works, but essentially it's not just falling, it's flying downwards, and that gives you a lot of control. You can move all over left, right, you can slow yourself down, you can speed yourself up. So that belief that I would be successful at my goal led me to eight world titles, 12,000 jumps. And that was actually what I found out was missing in other places in my life, such as my entrepreneurial life. Because like I'm a guy who jumps out of airplanes, right? Like I used to go to work and get paid to take you and do backflips out of an airplane and watch you scream to death and maybe do your thing somewhere, you know? Yeah, pretty much, pretty much.

unknown:

Yeah.

Jennifer Loehding:

So don't let us die.

Bryan Gile:

Totally. That was, and you know what? I'm gonna joke with you the whole way through that we might. But that was my resume up until the age of 29. And as I started trying to transition into becoming a successful business owner, entrepreneur, sending emails and making phone calls and building web pages and building marketing funnels wasn't something I was natural at. And I didn't know it for quite a few years. But the reason why I was struggling as a business owner throughout my entire 20s was because of a lack of belief and it was subconscious. So when I got my first skydiving world record, I kind of sat there and thought. I was like, why, what, how, how am I actually at the top 1% of something in the world and totally floundering and struggling to just launch a business at the same time? Obviously, there's like a lot of differences in between sending emails and doing backflips after airplanes, but what would the commonality be that would lead me to be successful in both of those? And I realized it was all belief-based.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, no, that is so true. And as you know, a runner, totally different than what you do, but as a runner, I totally can get that. Cause like it would be the same thing. I could go and and do a race or something, and I was a I was a marathon runner and a trail runner. And so I could go do that, but then I would get hung up in something else. And I've talked about this even like with money, like you talk about belief systems, like you're talking about. And so I've shared this openly that you know, for many years, um, I carried debt. Not we, it was weird. We didn't have debt debt in our marriage. I had debt. I had debt that I was doing, that I had stuck, you know, like stuck in my business. And it wasn't because I didn't know how to manage a checkbook. We all learn how to do those kinds of things, right? It's just that I had these really bad belief systems that were wrapped around money. And so while I was risk adverse in my business, meaning I didn't want to spend money in my personal life, it was completely different. And so interestingly, when I started to um work on the inner, I like the I I have this whole system I call like the inner block detox, basically, because it was like I had to do all this inner, you know, blocking, detoxing, so to speak. And when I started really working on me, it was interesting because I didn't target the money, I targeted other things. But that became one of the these the things I cleaned up in the peripheral, peripheral area. And so um, and I ended up ultimately what I did is I went in and right before COVID hit, I took all my credit cards and I went to a debt resolution place, which I know a lot of people in the financial world don't ever do that. But you know what? For me, it gave me the discipline, it forced me to have to, I say, have a coming to Jesus because I had to get rid of those credit cards and I had to buckle down and then COVID hit. And you better believe, Brian, I had to work my tail off to figure out how I was gonna pay that debt off because I didn't want to tell my husband I needed him to pay it off. I was gonna pay that debt off, and so I did. You know, we find and we did, we got it, it got it taken care of, got it gone and all of that, but it was such a relief, you know, when it was done. And and my entire point is just to say what you say, it has so much to do with the belief systems that we have underneath, whether we think we can do something or we can't, and all those subconscious things that just linger and eat at us, you know.

Bryan Gile:

So that's uh I love that you mentioned that because essentially what you're saying is you, you know, you you were struggling with debt in the past. I was in debt in my 20s up until the age of 29. And, you know, both of us had a mindset shift where we just decided, okay, enough is enough. I need to tackle this. And what do you know? Then you start to tackle the problem. So I I think if we dig into anything really today, you know, it's let's go wherever you want to, but mindset and our thoughts and awareness of our thoughts is that's really what I specialize in. Is yeah, I never, and then this is what I like to say. Like, I built a multi-six figure business off of my own belief, but I will never tell someone to believe in themselves because that's a tall order. Instead, what I'll say is I'll teach you how to believe in yourself at the level that an eight-time world record holding athlete does.

Jennifer Loehding:

Okay.

Bryan Gile:

Because that's what I learned how to do. I was like, all right, I don't have the belief in my own success, even though I'm going through the motions in business. I'm trying to start online businesses, I'm trying to sell ebooks. Um, this is back in like 2012. I'm going, I'm putting in the hours at my desk. All right. But I'm not getting the results because I'm hitting these obstacles and fear and worry and anxiety starts to bubble up when I don't know how to work around a technical issue. And then I end up quitting and I move on to the next thing to kind of like go through this cycle over and over and over again of trying to find the right business. But really, any one of those ideas would have worked for me, but I didn't have the subconscious belief that I was going to be successful like I did in skydiving. And that's why none of them ever did. So as soon as I was able to create a mindset that reinforced that belief, results exploded like overnight.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, yeah. Well, and I think that takes, I mean, I don't know, I don't want to assume I know what your system is. I think that takes a lot of going through and figure, like you said, you figure you said a eight town world record holder, right? Like from the mindset of that, because you obviously worked through that and you figured out what that system was that worked for you. So you, hey, I can duplicate, I can show you what I did, and you can put that into practice for yourself, you know. And so I think that, yeah, I think it's it's this. Um I I I always tell people it's like when I'm working, like when I'm working with people, and and I do a lot more like I'm much more of a uh presenter type person. Like I like to do group things than I do what I do, I do do some one-on-one coaching with people, but I like to do, I just feel like I'm more effective because I get too invested in people and I get tired. I get tired, physically tired. Yeah. Um, and so one of the things I always tell them, it's like when we're trying to make change, you know, because you'll hear people, and I don't know how I'm assuming you get people like this too sometimes that come in and they're like full throttle wanting to make change. It's like they want to go zero to 360 overnight, and you're like, no, that is not gonna work, you know. And I taught aerobics many, many years, and I would have people, you know, like the people that come into the gym and they're like they walk in day one on January, whatever, the day the gym opens up, and they're up in the front row of your class, and then they're there like for a few weeks, like every single day, and like, you know, and so I've always kind of had the mindset of how do we create and to kind of create that that worthiness because it's not just about getting because confidence and worthiness are two different things, like right? Believe your belief systems are different. You can build them, but they're a little bit different, and that's why you'll see people sometimes that have a lot of skill, but they still don't have the belief system, right? Like they still don't have it. And so that's why going back to that gym thing, I always think it's so important to put these steps in practice that can help them create those wins, right? Because each time, like you know, you went in there and you got good at skydiving, you started building that. I'm really good at this, I can do this over and over and over. Now it's like a no-brainer for you. You go up there, it's kind of like a pilot, right? Like they just get in the plane and they do it. Me? Yeah, I would have to be we're you know, first time you're driving a car, you're like, sure, you know, how to start somewhere. Exactly, exactly. So I think just starting and and doing and you know, go ahead.

Bryan Gile:

What one thing that you kind of just uh mentioned a little bit is where someone tries to create a ton of change, and I actually believe that people can create a massive amount of change very, very quickly. We're just not necessarily taught how to do that, okay? And when you try to create change externally, yeah, like aggressive change externally, but you don't start by making the change internally, that's where the failure comes in because your external world is a projection of your internal world. Let's get in how to how to do that in just a second. You you mentioned someone who like wants to change their life very aggressively, and they get in, they get all excited, they start going to the gym or whatever, and then five weeks later they fizzle out. I call that concept the death cycle of an idea. And what this is is just imagine a bell curve. So imagine a line that from left to right, it starts out low, it goes up high, there's a center point, and then it continues and it drops back down low again. On the left side of that curve, you have the birth of your idea, which is I'm gonna change my life, I'm gonna get in shape, I'm gonna get out of debt, whatever, all this stuff. And you start making progress towards your goals, and you're very excited because you've just started. And that's always when you start a new goal, that's when your level of excitement is at its highest. And you're just like, oh my God, I'm doing it. I'm I'm okay. And there will always, no matter whether you are successful in a goal or whether you fail at it, there's always going to be a point in time where you stop being excited about your goals for for two reasons. One reason is because you're in the daily grind of it. And we'll talk about that later. The the primary reason why people fail their goals and quit is because of negative self-talk once the excitement phase stops. Once it actually becomes work and you're like, oh my God, I don't want to get out of bed and go to the gym today or whatever it is. You know, it's been five weeks, your motivation is declining, but really it's your it's your mental thoughts and your reactions to your thoughts, such as saying to yourself, I don't want to do this, I don't feel like doing this, this is harder than I thought it was gonna be. Once that chatter goes unchecked and you allow it to continue without correcting it, your momentum is gonna die. Just give it time. You can't keep thinking to yourself that I don't want to do this and continue on. And what happens there while that mental chatter, that negative self-talk is going on, is that your belief slowly dies. Your belief in being successful at the goal slowly dies, and even wanting to do it slowly dies, and eventually your momentum stalls and you quit. But how like how many goals that you've ever fully believed in have you quit? Probably not very many.

Jennifer Loehding:

Oh, that that no, yeah, no. Yeah, no, yeah, well, and I know, and I think my point to that with the change thing is I agree with you most because I think most people in my experience, and that's only because you know, having worked in I was in Mary Kay for like I told you 22 years, so I've worked with a lot of people in that capacity to to helping them build businesses and build teams. And outside of that, because I work with other people in different areas, but um I feel like most people, it's like what you're talking about, they're not committed. And it may be because they don't know how, but in my experience, a lot of them are not committed enough to make that internal change to create that massive outwardly change, right? Like you have to have you achieve some some really amazing things. And I'm sure and I'm not, I know you had to work to do that, and you probably have had other things that have come up in the middle that have really developed and shaped who you are as a human and all that. But I will say, even for me, like a lot of the work, the internal work that I did, that cleaning up that debt, all of that, those patterns of behavior were things I that I learned very early on, early on in my young age, and they just kept they continued to keep going, right? And or keep going, kept going, keep going. They didn't, I didn't really get to a place where I was really willing to make that external change until I had something really hard happen in my life. And when I had something really hard happen, it forced me to go inward and figure out why did it happen, right? Like, why did this happen? And it moved me from a place of being why did it happen to me to it happening through me because I learned in that a lot of things, and then that's when all that transformation. So, yes, I'm with you. I think because I feel like I, and you probably have too, I feel like I have made massive change, and I feel like I've done it. I say I feel like I've done I've been working on this. I I you know, I started Mary Kay back in 19 like 97, 98, and then I left that. But I had this whole major health thing happen in 2012. So I've been at this now for a little while, right? And I say, Yeah, I feel like I've had massive change, but I've also been at it now for what are we in 2025? So a little while.

Bryan Gile:

We never stop growing, you know, there's no timeline that you have to figure this stuff out at.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, exactly. But my thing, my point is that you know, that massive change. That's why when I tell people when they look at me and they say, Okay, this is where I am today, this isn't where I've always been. You know, and and a birth of all of this transformation really came because I was forced to have to evaluate. I didn't like I didn't like what was happening in my life. I didn't like the path I was traveling down. I didn't like I yeah, I was an achiever. I mean, I did cool things. I earned a company car, I set a company record, earned a car for five days. I mean, I did cool things, but I wasn't a happy person and I was sick and I had a lot of things going on that weren't in the in the right way. And so I think that hard stuff sometimes sport is when we when we get into that. And so I'm with you. I think that we have to have that inner sport in order for that massive outwardly stuff to happen.

Bryan Gile:

So you just described my favorite word in goal achievement. Uh it's the number one reason why anyone is going to be successful at any type of lofty goal, and that word is conviction. Okay. If we want to build uh a world-class level of belief, which is really focus on doing that, focus on creating excellent levels of self-belief to achieve your goals, and then you're gonna do it indirectly, but that all starts with conviction that you are going to be successful before you even start, and you will figure out how to do it. Now, obviously, not everyone is going to succeed at every single goal in their life. I've failed at many, but I succeed at more goals than I fail, especially these days, because I have a plan of how to go about goal achievement, whether that's losing weight, whether that's learning languages, starting a business, whatever it is. You have to start with a full conviction that I am going to do X. Okay. And the reason that's so important is because if we go back to our death cycle of an idea concept, once you get to that point at the top of the bell curve where the excitement starts to fade, that conviction in sticking it through to the end is the is the beginning of you fighting the internal negative dialogue that would cripple you and slow your momentum down. So that's what the life cycle of an idea looks like. And it looks like an S, like the letter S. That's called an S curve. Yeah. It starts out the same way. You have an idea for a big goal, starting a business, whatever, savings for retirement. Uh, you're always excited as soon as you start with your goal. And even for goals that you do succeed in, your excitement is going to fade because it's not that sexy to work on your goal on day 412. Yeah. Not as not as fun as it was on day three. You know what I mean? The progress that you make is very, very small. The better you get at anything, the amount of progress you make always diminishes. You make tons of progress when you start because you're starting from zero. And when you get to that top of that point where in the graph where your excitement fades, that's what I call the long road of success. Okay. Where you're very far away from starting from where you started, and you're very far away from the end. You're kind of in this no man's land in the middle. But that's where you have to put on your tunnel vision blinders and maintain your positive thinking and reacting to thoughts that would slow you down and tell you to quit. That is what my book is about. That is what this system of thought that I created that allowed me to go from $16,000 in debt to a multi-six-figure earner within a couple of years explode my life as an entrepreneur. It all had to do with not blocking my negative thoughts or not stopping my negative thoughts, but learning how to react independently from them in a positive manner. And there is like a ton of science behind this. Yeah.

Jennifer Loehding:

Okay.

Bryan Gile:

So let's get into what that system is. I'm going to I'm going to give your listeners a three-step system that they can use to actually physically create changes in their brains via neuroplasticity. This is fully backed by neuroscience. One, I can tell you it works. And then two, there's a ton of science that can tell you it works as well, too.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, I'm familiar with neuroplasticity. So yeah, fill us in. But the listeners are going to be, yeah, give us, I would love to hear this. So yeah.

Bryan Gile:

For sure. So neuroplasticity, for anyone who isn't familiar, it is the phenomenon that your brain can literally physically change structure based upon how you think. And there's a saying in the neuroscience field that neurons that fire together wire together. Okay. Essentially, what we can do with this is we can learn how to reprogram our brains so that positive, uplifting, um empowering thoughts that would propel us towards difficult goals because everyone has a down day. Everyone's going to have, you know, days where you doubt your ability to succeed and all that stuff. It's about your ability to bounce back and maintain a course. And you can do that through positive thinking. If you fall into negative thinking and don't check it, that that's where you kind of can't maintain altitude. So three simple steps of how to maintain a positive outlook in your life, which will domino towards your own success. Step one, start running a background scan of your thoughts all day, every day. Don't take any extra time out of your day to do this. Don't sit for an hour a day or even three minutes a day. Incorporate this scan as to like part of your of your personality. And what you do with it, this is called recognize. Step one, recognize. All you want to do is recognize whether you are having positive thoughts or negative thoughts. Okay. And you'll as you're going about your day, just kind of bring your attention to the type of thoughts that you're having. Are they positive and uplifting? Are they negative and unhelpful? Okay. A negative thought would be anything that is not propelling you towards your goals. Just for the simplicity of this conversation, let's keep that there. A positive thought would be anything that does propel you towards your goals. All you have to do when you have a negative thought is become aware of it and say to yourself, I am experiencing a negative thought. Now, real quick, here's the thing about thoughts, they don't exist anywhere in physical reality at all. Like it's so common for us to experience self-limiting thinking and then assume that it's real or assume that it's true. But the vast majority of the time, no, it's not true, and or you can do something about it, even if it were okay. So step one, we're really trying to become an observer of our thoughts because we are not our thoughts. We're someone who is we're we're a conscious entity who is experiencing them. Recognize when you have negative thoughts. Step two, you don't have to stop having them. Just learn how to transform your reaction to your negative thoughts. So, like a good example of this would be, you know, Rewind. 12 years back when I was 29, I was trying to start online businesses and I would have this subconscious, it wasn't a verbal string of thoughts that I was hearing, but I would have the subconscious fear that it wasn't gonna work out for me, that I wasn't going to be successful in launching whatever business I was working on, or just overall, that I wasn't going to be successful as an entrepreneur. Recognize that as a negative thought pattern. And that one's a little trickier because it doesn't have a string of dialogue. But you know, something like I can't do it or I'm not gonna be successful at this, that would be a very easy one to spot. Transform that with a mantra. So a mantra in Eastern philosophy is a series of words that bestow like a healing effect. In Western philosophy, we can call it an affirmation. Okay. Create a mantra for yourself. Mine is happy, healthy, wealthy, humble, love. Five words, super positive, and they just remind me of my ability to think and react positively, even when I'm beating myself up and having a bad day. That actually does something in your brain where it takes you out of kind of an automated setting and puts you into your prefrontal cortex, which is where rational thinking occurs from. Once you start thinking rationally about your ability to solve problems, that's when you calm your amygdala down, which is a part of your brain that it's like an alarm. Like sirens just start going off when you're stressed out. It produces fear, anxiety, worry, doubt, all that stuff kind of pops up as like what ifs. But once you start thinking rationally about any problem, really, there's usually a rational way to solve it.

Jennifer Loehding:

Right, right.

Bryan Gile:

Going through step two of transformation, what I call, by saying a mantra, three to five words that are just powerful and um, they're positive. They remind you to be positive. It puts you in your prefrontal cortex, it removes the the power that that negative thought held over you and allows the most important, maybe second most important step, which is step number three, taking immediate action. Okay. You've probably interviewed a lot of successful people over the years, right?

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah.

Bryan Gile:

I I will tell you one thing that every single successful person in the world has in common, without a doubt. They take action on their ideas as an innate part of their personality. They are an action taker. It's who they are. It doesn't matter what the field is, they are through through self-development or just naturally, they are programmed to take action with the expectation of success. Immediate action, step three, is you training yourself to become an action taker by hitting small goals right now. So for instance, let's say that you want to start an online business and you're selling the ebooks. That's what I was doing back in the day. Please just apply whoever's listening, apply this to your goal and your reality. You want to start your business, you have a self-limiting thought that says you're not going to be able to do this, you recognize that step one, you transform it with your mantra, happy, healthy, wealthy, humble, loved, or I can do it. Just those four simple words, they really though I can do it. That's a powerful mantra right there. And it allows you to take that next bit of action towards your goal, which is sending an email, making a phone call, hiring a VA. Okay. Unsuccessful people typically have a habit of having an idea, such as hiring a virtual assistant, and then not following through on that. They just sit in the idea and they don't ever do anything about it. Successful people universally are action takers. So that's what these three steps do is they teach you how to A believe in yourself indirectly through changing the reactions to your thoughts and emotions. And then B teach you how to take action fast, like real fast action. And all of your biggest goals in life are nothing more than a mass accumulation of small daily wins. Yeah, that's it.

Jennifer Loehding:

I love it. I was gonna say something about this taking action thing. This is good. I love it. Um yeah, the the whole idea of taking action, it's so funny because whenever I will say this. Whenever I have anytime I've ever felt stuck like in something, like stuff where I feel like I'm not sure what to do, my immediate response is to take action. It's immediately to go into action mode. And it's so funny because in all the years that I was working, help you know, helping women build teams and stuff, you know, I one of the things I of course, you took let's go back to the ones that aren't and the aren't successful in the ones that are. The ones that aren't would typically spend a lot of time coming to me and being needing to have everything perfect, like all the forms had to be right, the script, everything had to be perfect in order for them to start. Like consistently had to be perfect. Whereas my mindset was always, you will figure it out when you start doing what you need to be doing. And so I would I would always go into we don't need to have the perfect flyer, you just need to talk to somebody because everything happens when you talk to somebody. When you start talking to somebody, that's how you sell. When you talk to somebody, that's how you meet a new prospect. When you talk to somebody, that's how you, you know, you you get a facial, whatever. It was always about just go into action mode. And so I am all, you know, and pretty much, and you're right, everybody that I've worked with that's been in that space, it's right there, they go into action mode. And so I think that yes, it's the difference between not to say you we you don't want to plan, you do want to plan, right? But we we we've got it, you've got to get into action mode to make things happen because the more time you spend planning and sitting, the more time you're gonna have time for all that negative thought to come in and to derail you and keep you stuck in your spot, right? So I just don't even and I use mantras, by the way. I do use those. So thank you for saying that because funny enough, on Starter Girls, when I first started this show, I used to say a mantra to close out the show. And it sort of it's a little longer than yours, but it became my personal mantra. And so, oddly enough, Ryan, I should say Ollie, funny enough, when I find myself all of these steps that you're talking about, I do, by the way. So I love you said this. I I love it because the blueprint, that's the recipe right there. When I find myself in a pattern of I call it bad brain thinking, it's what we that's the twin we termed it in my family. It's actually like distorted thinking, is what it could be. But I call it bad brain thinking. And so when I find my brain starting to go down the rabbit hole of why is this happening? Why are you doing this? This is not gonna work. You know, the I'm like, okay, we're gonna stop that right now. Today's a great day to be brave. We might as well start now. You have the power to change the circumstances any day. You decide, let the day be that day, rise up, be amazing. That is what I do, and I will do that, Brian. Like five, six, seven, eight, nine. How many ever times it takes me to get out of that? You can't, I can't you can't say that and stay in that. If you said that enough times, you're not gonna, there's no way. There's no way.

Bryan Gile:

No, and and there's like a ton of science behind what you just said, too. The more that you use your mantra, or the more that you use my system of recognizing, transforming, and acting on your thoughts, you reprogram and physically rewire your brain to think more positively and take more positive action. And if you do this once, it's not gonna do anything for you. But if you make it a part of who you are, like I am a positive person, I take positive action, I'm realistic. This is called realistic optimism, by the way. Don't just blindfly rah-rah, sisbumba, chant affirmations. Be realistically optimistic. And when you do that, you you you actually change your brain. It's pretty wild. You you just mentioned uh one thing that I wanted to circle back on. Yeah, you were talking about uh some girls that you were working with, and they needed everything to be perfect in order for them to start. Okay.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah.

Bryan Gile:

So two couple things. Number one, perfect is the enemy of good. All right, and good is what you need to start. You don't need to be perfect, you need to be good. Also, it's not about what you can do on your best day. It's never about that. It's what you can do on your worst. We don't build we we we just set a 174-person skydiving world record in Chicago this summer in August. It took us 10 years to break the previous attempt with multiple failed attempts uh in 2018 and 2022 or something like that in between it. And it doesn't the type of flyer that is a world record-holding flyer, it's not about them doing a 90% good job. It's what can you do on your worst skydive? Can you still make a world record happen on your worst skydive? Because if you can't, then we can't get this. Okay. So people always like to think that, you know, in their in their life that they're gonna perform to the top of their expectations. But really, when the pressure's on, you fall to your level of training. However hard you have trained or however much you have prepared yourself, let's say for a speech or for a presentation you're gonna give, when your palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms spaghetti, you know that stuff. Yeah, um, you're gonna fall to how you have trained yourself. And so if you want to nail your life, small, small actions to train every single day.

Jennifer Loehding:

Oh my gosh, Brian, it's so much to say added to this as you were my brain, my brain was just going ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, as you were talking. Okay, so I had my I have a friend here who was an Olympian trial runner, marathon runner. And Olympic trial, she I I want to say it was right before COVID hit. She came on one of my first guests, her name's Don Grunagel. If you want to go catch it, like we were terrible at that time, but she was an amazing runner. And I remember asking her on there, like, it was either myself or my partner Amy at the time, said something like, What are you thinking when you're on the line with all these like elite runners? Like, what is going through your mind? And she says, I just rely on my tool belt. Like, basically, what we're talking about right here, the practice she has done, the work, she's just gone out there, done it, continued to do it, and she's just falling back on what she has learned to do. This is so true because I think so often I this goes back to what I think is a little bit different about, and you don't just have to be an entrepreneur for this to happen. I think anybody that becomes a risk taker that is willing to put not toe dip, jump in, right? Like willing to go out there is that we just assume stuff's gonna happen. We just assume we're gonna fail at some point. Now, what I mean by that, what I'm saying by that is I'm not saying that we we say we can't achieve something. What I'm saying is we assume there's going to be setbacks in the middle of all. I'm not saying that we have to fail the goal. Right, what excitement's going to fade. Exactly. Yes, I'm just saying that we we know going into this that we are gonna have challenges, things are not always gonna go our way, and we're okay with that. We're willing to accept that. So I think that goes in alignment with what you're saying is what how are you performing on your worst day? Because you're just doing, you're going in with the expectation and doing over and over and over with that idea that I'm gonna not get it right every day, but that's okay. That's okay. Because every time I don't get it right, I'm still getting gaining something in the process. And see, that's how this is how I look at everything. In fact, if sometimes I tell myself, and I don't know if you're like this, sometimes I don't even know when to quit because I will keep at something. Let me just give you case in point. So my websites, I'm I I'm not a website builder. Like, no, okay, but I tell you what, Brian, since I be an entrepreneur, you learn how to become everything. I have learned how to become everything. Like I can I can do a funnel, I can do websites, I can sell, I can book, I can coach, I can recruit. I can't skydive, but I can do a lot of things because I've had to learn to as an entrepreneur. So I'm moving my websites. I built my websites on this platform, right? And the first one I did was like a WordPress site. My son helped me build it, and then I did this, these other AI things. So now I'm moving to this new AI builder, and they're all on coins, Brian. Like you pay a monthly subscription, they give you credits. And I'm like, dude, I need unlimited freaking credit so I can just navigate the damn AI that I'm arguing with because every time I change something, it changes 500 other things. So I am like, I probably should have given up. I moved a total of four websites. I have five websites between all my businesses. Okay, so I was trying to combine to move them all over. I've got all of four, four but one that's still because I ran out of coins. I've run out of coins again. I should have just given up and let it go. But I was like, Brian, we are gonna get those websites. They look, they're amazing. They look good. But I'm telling you, sometimes that's good most of the time. Sometimes that you just don't know when to quit. And I think that's that mindset we have of we are going to figure it out, we're gonna do it. That conviction you were talking about, and we're gonna assume the risk, and we know there's gonna be pain points, but we're willing to take that because what we want to do is strong enough for us to do it.

Bryan Gile:

Totally. So, and yeah, not knowing when to quit or just being unwilling to quit. That's a personality trait that some of us are born with. You and I both have both have it for better or worse. Now, what about when people don't have the trait of never quitting? Can I tell a story? Yeah, real quick.

Jennifer Loehding:

Go for it.

Bryan Gile:

Yeah, so so I'm gonna tell the story of when I came up with my system. It's called Positive Immediate Action, Recognize Transform Act, and how that led into me not quitting on a goal that I had of becoming an author and ultimately becoming successful. You know, here's here's my book, physical, right there. Thank you. Yeah, yeah. Put a lot of work into that. So, okay, here's what it feels like to actually reprogram your mind and go through behavioral change that leads you from being in a place of self-doubt, of worry, of fear of failure, and overcoming what I call your inner critic. Sorry, what a lot of what psychologists call your inner critic, and then becoming successful at a goal. 2012, I had just gotten home from my first world record, thinking to myself, holy smokes, I'm a total failure in business, and I'm actually on a world level of something else. What the heck? That night, I decided, I was just like staring off into space, analyzing what was going on. I decided that I needed to synthetically recreate the type of mindset that I had as a skydiver into my business life. And right then and right there, I said, okay, I'm suffering from conscious and mostly subconscious negative thinking. That's like the one big difference in my business life that does not occur in my skydiving life. I need a way to control that and I need a way to consistently take action. That's how positive immediate action was born. So I came up with those three steps and I was like, all right, what do I want to do with my career? And I thought to myself, it came to me quickly, I'm gonna write a book. I'm gonna be an author. And I don't know if I had had that thought beforehand. So not writing an actual book. I was selling like small e-books online, but like an actual full-length book. I don't think I'd had that thought before. So I decided right then and there, I was like, okay, I'm gonna become an author and I'm gonna use this three-step process to power my thinking and acting every single day until I write my book. And then do you know what I said to myself? This is the stupidest idea ever. This is never gonna work. This is so dumb. Like, why would I even think that this stupid, stupid process is gonna work? This is this has gotta be the dumbest thing I've ever thought of. And then I thought to myself, I was like, whoa, step one, I'm I'm experiencing a negative thought right now. And I don't experience those in my skydiving life or in learning foreign languages or in surfing or in jujitsu. And I'm very successful in those areas. This is what is crippling me in my entrepreneurial life. So I recognized the negative thought pattern, removed myself from it, started observing it because I'm you again, you are not your thoughts. You are the conscious observer of your thoughts. So start observing them. I said my mantra, I transformed the thought from negative to positive, and I took action of sitting down and starting to write immediately, right then. And I wrote a page or something, and then I said to myself, this is so dumb. This is the stupidest idea.

Jennifer Loehding:

You're going through it again.

Bryan Gile:

Going through it again. Like, who am I to be? Who am I to write a book? Who am I to become an author? Who am I to put something out there, some information out there that the world is gonna read?

Jennifer Loehding:

Right.

Bryan Gile:

Uh wanna read. And then I was like, all right, recognize the thought pattern, transform it into a positive thought, happy, healthy, wealthy, humble, loved. This is so dumb, but I'm gonna do it anyway, and then I'm gonna take action. So I kept doing that that night, wrote like seven or eight pages, woke up the next day. Okay, cool, let's let's sit down, let's write again. This is so stupid. This is never gonna work. Like, why, like, who am I kidding to think that this is not gonna, that this is gonna work? And I just kept going back and forth with that negative limiting thought in my head. It's a thought pattern, that I just had to come to terms that it doesn't exist in physical reality. I am the one creating those thought patterns. They're not true. They're I can't see them anywhere around me, they're not real. I decide whether I put weight into that thought or not. And belief is really what brings your thoughts into reality. So once you start removing your belief from negative thinking and pouring belief into positive thinking, that is what allows action or inaction in the real world. So I went back and forth with this for like two weeks. I woke up every day, I started writing, told myself I was a big dumb idiot, this wasn't gonna work. And then I just kept going through the motions of recognizing and transforming that into positive energy, taking action. Then one day came, I was probably 10 days in, and I looked at my page count in Microsoft Word, and I had written 70 pages. And I said to myself, holy, holy smokes, this is working.

Jennifer Loehding:

And I was like, it's working.

Bryan Gile:

Yeah, I was like, this is actually working. And if I can write 70 pages, I can write 100 pages. And if I can write a hundred pages, I can write an entire book, I can do this. And that is the moment that you want to get yourself to, ladies and gentlemen, is where you indirectly, through your own progress and success in small goals, have built your level of belief up to the highest level that it can be, which is an I can do it level of belief. Once you have that, you're golden. And it took me years, but like here's here's the book right there. This this is physical, it's in reality. So so that's actually my story of going through behavioral change, the mental struggle of what it feels like to do so, because your brain likes things how it is. Right. It's it's wired for you to think in an efficient manner of how you typically do every single day. Your brain likes efficiencies. We as humans like efficiencies. In order for you to change your thinking patterns, especially when fear is involved, it's gonna feel like you're rolling a ball uphill at first. And you just gotta keep pushing that heavy ball uphill inch by inch by inch. But you will get to a point within a matter of weeks, if you stay at this, where all of a sudden the momentum starts like you're up, you're up at the top of the hill, and now that ball is easily rolling down the other side. You are rewiring your brain, you're restructuring neurons, you're in your prefrontal cortex more, you're thinking rationally. Also, the prefrontal cortex allows decision making and action taking. You are becoming the type of person who would succeed at your goals. Circling back to when you said earlier that like people try to take on all this huge amount of change, and then five weeks later they quit. It's because they never turn themselves into the type of person who would succeed long term.

Jennifer Loehding:

They just tried to think externally about diving in with no real, no real mental point. No, and I think you know, listening to all of this, I think the big first initial thing, and you've kind of said this over and over and listening to talk is really that self-awareness in the beginning. It's it's checking in, the scanning, checking in to see what are you thinking about, and then what do you what's that what do you do next from there? Because to me, that is the do or die. Because if you choose to sit in that, you're going frozen. But if you choose to move out of that, which would be like what you're talking about, move into mantra, what I do, mantra, move into something. I do other, I do other like nervous system stuff. Like sometimes I'll just, you know, like to me, it like get up, go splash water on my face or go do something to kind of stir myself up and get out of that frame. But whatever that is, I think the big key critical thing that you're you're leading into here initially is taking stock, making sure you know how you are thinking in that moment. And you're a prime example when you were talking about your book, how you went through that multiple times where you came back and realized, hey, I'm doing it again, the behavior again, I'm falling off again, and telling myself, hey, Brian, I can't do this. Hello, no, yes, you can check. Let's do mantra, start over, go into action, start writing. And so, and through that, what you're talking about, that repetitive work, that's really how we start building that self-worth muscle because we start realizing that, hey, I can do this. I am doing it, you know. And so I love it. I love that you mentioned these three steps. I think it's great, great episode. I would love to know, okay, so what is the big, what's the big next goal we got going? What's happening? You like got so much fun stuff going on. I love it. Like, what's the big next uh next thing coming up for you?

Bryan Gile:

Just getting more so, uh getting further into keynote speaking, really on these topics and just continuing my coaching business, expanding that on these topics. I work with mindfulness, I help people overcome fear-based emotions so that they can really take action in their lives, whether that's as a business owner or just as you know, anyone else. So just expanding that work and spreading this word because it really changed my life. Um, it's I've been very thankful and excited to have read the reviews online. We're sitting at five stars still. Uh people love this work, so I just feel called to get it out there, you know?

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah, yeah. Well, no, and I think it's great. And I think it's great that you, because obviously, like, you know, you having somebody come from an area where you were excelling really, really well and then coming into this other side. And we all have that, I think. We all have, you know, places where we do really, really well, and then other things we try to dive in. It's like I my husband and I've had these conversations, like he was an elite runner, and I mean, like, he was like a really good, I mean, not the best runner, but he did really well. I mean, he always he won here, he would, you know, do like these 50 mile races and would come in for a first place. And so he sort of developed this sort of, you know, like when probably like you do when you do your work, where they just expect you to perform at a certain level, right? Like go in. And so for him, it was a no-brainer because he'd done it so many times. Like I would I laugh because he'd go out on the weekend, he'd be like, I'm gonna go run 20 miles and then run in days. He'd just go do it. And I'm like, the rat, like I'd have to train, like I gotta work at that because I'm just not, I'm not, that's not the same. He's just talented and he's got the skill and all of that, and the discipline with that, right? And so he could do that, but then move into business, right? And for him to think about like what I do, and like that just scares him to it's like what you're talking about, right? It just doesn't even like he looks at that and he's like, I just know he has a job, he's got a great job, makes good money, but he's been doing that same job and it he works for somebody and goes in. And like that to me just mortifies me because I'm like, no, you know, so it is wherever our comfort level is, wherever we are, you know, that's where we are. And then when we have to move into that to something different, that's where we start to get met with that resistance. And so I think you've set a really good groundwork here for giving people that here's what it's like having come from this mindset of an athlete world record holder here in this field. What did I have to do to do this? What did I have to figure out when I moved into a new space for myself? You know?

Bryan Gile:

Yeah.

Jennifer Loehding:

Because we're the best teachers, is when we teach other people, right?

Bryan Gile:

Totally. So I'm not sure. That's when that's that's when you become even better at your craft, is when you become a teacher. How many minutes uh uh do we have left?

Jennifer Loehding:

We got a few minutes. You got you guys some more you want to tell us real fast? Uh yeah, I do.

Bryan Gile:

You know, just just circ circling back. So, like, you know, we talked about positive thinking, we talked about the power of that today. You had just talked about how your husband is like natural and talented as a runner. Yeah. No matter what your goals are, it and let's assume that you're not a natural at a goal that you're trying to accomplish. Let's assume that success isn't inherently just destined for you. Yeah. The idea that we want to create here is that you go you're going to be tactical of stacking the odds of success of you completing any goal so far in your favor that achieving the goal, achieving the outcome you desire is the probable outcome, aka you destined yourself for success before you even start. Yeah. Now, the way that I do this or the way that I explain this to my clients and in my book, I call this the scope of destiny, right? So it all starts with our thinking. And there's studies about how many thoughts humans have per day. It ranges all over the place depending on what you call a thought.

Jennifer Loehding:

Yeah.

Bryan Gile:

The most amount of thoughts that studies typically show is like 60,000 thoughts per day that humans have. On the lower range is something under 10,000. For the for the purpose of this exercise, I've just taken a number in the middle. Like let's assume that the average human has 30,000 thoughts per day on average. If 95% of those are positive, yeah, and 5% of those are negative, that is a thousand five hundred negative thoughts per day.

Jennifer Loehding:

That's a lot.

Bryan Gile:

That's a lot. And so over time, if you're trying to accomplish any goal and you are experiencing over a thousand negative thoughts around your goal or yourself per day, you're stacking the odds of success against you. Okay. Yeah, you can't. And you want to limit that as much as possible in a realistic manner. You should always confront, you know, uh realities in your life. Don't just blindside yourself with positive thinking, be realistic with it. But start there so that you can create a chain of actions that actually they it creates a math equation into the future of thinking and acting that adds up to your desired outcome. As in, you're going to become the new version of yourself who thinks and acts so much today before you have your outcome that a year from now, five years from now, ten years from now, whatever in the future, it actually is destined that you will reach that. Okay. So that's what we do when we're shifting our thoughts from a negative to a positive pattern and then taking action on it. One way to really ensure a lot of success for yourself in anything is what I call the compound effect. So after we've taken our thoughts into account, let's move into like real world strategies. Let's say that you want to, let's say that you want to run a better marathon pace, okay, for a half half marathon pace. Rather than just focusing on running, focus on like half a dozen sub-goals around your primary goal that would support it. Okay. And all of the all of the effort in those compound in those areas is going to compound towards strengthening your central goal of becoming a better runner. So that is little stuff like you getting the best pair of running shoes out there for you. Like actually getting very good equipment. Start with that. Number two, getting better sleep. Number three, maybe changing your diet, educating yourself on what type of diet leads to the best running. Like I think you guys carb load a lot, right?

Jennifer Loehding:

When you do I well, my husband's called parts. Yeah, I mean, I I I stay keto, but if I was if I was an elite runner like that, I probably would do a little more carb loading just because it depends on. I think that too, you you're A really good that's a whole nother conversation we could have because that's a really good depends on what kind of runner you want to be. If you're a speed, you're probably you know, because ketoing doesn't allow for the speed, it does give you endurance, you will you will go long. So for a marathon runner that's or I I would probably say more like an endurance runner that's doing like like marathon plus would be really good because you won't have a crash and burn while you're on kingous. Sure.

Bryan Gile:

So either way, yeah, yeah. Either way, yeah. When working with people over the years, the the one of the number one reasons I find that people achieve the results they don't want when they're not able to solve a problem is when they have one problem and they try to match it with one solution.

Jennifer Loehding:

Right, right.

Bryan Gile:

The compound effect, what I'm talking about right now, is having one problem and overwhelming it with like six or more solutions. Yeah, that might sound a bit extra, but it is, and that's why you can expect above average results when you do that. I'll give you a real quick example here. I was suffering from back pain for years in my 30s, and I would try to like get a massage, or I would try to go to yoga, or I would try to acupuncture. Yeah, and it would provide some relief. Right. But what really cured my back pain was doing like nine things for it, you know, is I'm taking magnesium supplements, I'm taking sodium and potassium. Yeah, I am still getting massages. I do stretch, I'm taking turmeric to lower inflammation in my body. I'm taking ice baths. It sounds extra, but by overwhelming, yeah, by overwhelming my one problem with many solutions, I don't have my problem anymore.

Jennifer Loehding:

Right, right. And that works for the we can have a whole nother conversation on that, Brian. We have a whole conversation on the I'm laughing at because I do all those things too. Yeah, that my whole help, my my health has been like, I was laughing the other day because I tell people when they, you know, when I talk, normally I'm in my other room, but in my other room, my den, I have my like vitamins and stuff all behind me. So I tell people I'm like, oh, I'm not gonna show you all the vitamins that sit behind me in my daily routine because I have collagen, I do, you know, like I tape sodium, I have electrodes with my soda, I have like a a keto version of sodium, potassium, and I do magnesium every day. And yeah, like I have all my stuff. So when you were you were doing all the time, I got a pharmacy going on in our kitchen. It's not one thing, it's a lot of things. And I was just my back's been bothering me. I'm like, because I work out every day. I'm like, I need to go in, either do some acupuncture or massage. I need something. I need to go. I have all that too. I have a Chinese herbalist, I can get Chinese herbs. I got a fixer for it all. But yes, you're pointing. We have to have lots of things because often it's not one thing, it is many things that help us reach our destination. So good stuff, Brian. Well, you're doing amazing things. I love it. I like that you're in all of these different things, and I think that's what's one of the cool things about us entrepreneurs is that we have our hands on lots of things and we're it makes it, I think it makes life fun. You know, we got it does. You just you get to do a lot of things and experience life. I I put a clip up the other day that I was talking about how, you know, like in order to embrace the joy in life, you have to have the bad with the joy because you have to put yourself out there. And the reason I'm saying this is because I feel like, and I don't know about you, but I feel like in my life I've had a lot of just crazy things have happened in my life. And I not all I obviously didn't ask for all of them, but they happen. And some of them I'm sure are because of patterns of behaviors that I have done and things that I've had to work through. But I also think it's bigger than that. That I think it's because I experience life. I put I'm willing to put myself out there and risk things. And so when I do that, that subjects me to things that are not always favorable. And so whenever I get in the thick of having, you know, something happen and I'm like, this is an awful situation and I don't like it. I just remember, I have to go back to that, and I have to remember that I put myself out there where a lot of people are not willing to do that, and therefore I have a lot of wife experiences, and so more ups and more downs. Exactly. And so it's part of it, you know. But you learn and I think you get better, and like you, you start changing the way you think about things and you become more industrious, have more ingenuity. And I think when you're faced with those challenges, you get way more creative, you know. Like I look at things now and probably have always been sort of like this, but I look at a challenge and I'm like, they haven't told us it can't be done. Yeah. Okay. And you're telling me that this is an absolute no, and until you can give me a solid, I want, have you tried it? Have you tried it? Because if you haven't tried it, don't tell me it can't be done. Right? That's how I am. Like, if you haven't done it, and and I need probably more than just you, I need a lot of use. I want to know, like, have you done it? Have you tried it? Because if you haven't, then that's then I might try it. You know what I mean? So we gotta have a little crazy in the world, you know. It makes it fun. But I love what you're doing, and I want to tell you thank you so much for sharing with us. If our audience wants to get in touch with you, they want to get the book, they want to find out, follow you, whatever, where do you want us to send them?

Bryan Gile:

Um, check out my TikTok, BryanGile Official. Okay. That's where I post a lot of content on mindset and happiness and you know, goal achievement daily. Uh, you can find me at BrianGuile.com. My book, uh Be Great Be Happy, is on Amazon. Just go to Amazon, type in be great, be happy. And it's a book, it's more than just positive thinking, it's it's how to achieve any goal that you have and find inner happiness at the same time. Also with a ton of stories written through there. So I'm told it's a very fun read. It feels like a, I guess, a memoir more than just uh a self-help book. So you can get that on Amazon, be greatbehappy.com. You can read about it there more. And um also find me on this podcast.

Jennifer Loehding:

Absolutely. All right. Well, it's been fun, Brian. And I'm gonna keep up with you so we can follow you, you know, with all your stuff you got going on, all these amazing these jumps and all these things. We get to live vicariously through some of your fun stuff because that I'm not gonna do. That I don't have any desire, but we're gonna follow you and keep up with what you're doing. So love it. Thank you for having me. Yeah, absolutely. And to our audience, of course, we love you, appreciate you. We hope you found this episode both inspiring and informative. And reach out to Brian, follow him, check out his book, do whatever you need to do. I'm sure he will like, he will get back with you all the good stuff. And as we always say, you know, here, like, share, comment, so we can keep sharing all the fabulous stuff. And remember, in order to live the extraordinary, you must start. And every start begins with a decision. You guys take care, be safe, be kind to one another, and we will see you next time.

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Jennifer Loehding

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